Childhood or Traumahood

Childhood bhot ajeeb hota hai na, kisi ke liye happiness toh kisi ke lie sadness but do you know what the worst phase is....Traumatic Childhood.

b trauma mein obviously family members hi involve hote hain or some sort of friends jinhe hum apna best friend maan bethate hain but actual mein woh bhi hume best friend consider kare yeh zaroori nhi hai yaa shayad hai.

YES or NO?

Ek traumatised child ki na sui (needle) inhi do shabdon par aake atatkti hai whether YES or NO?

Trauma actually aata kahan se hai....have any idea?

I guess....vibes of home or the people around you.

Yeh trauma na agar sabse zyada kuch dekar jaata h toh woh hai SELF - DOUBT.

Ye toh sabko hota hai par kuch ko na kuch zyada hi hota hai kyuki bachpan se unhe yeh bataya gaya hota h ki "arey!!! tum toh useless ho, senseless ho, tumhe kuch nhi aata, moti buddhi hai iski yaa kabhi kabhi bail buddhi bhi bulate hain yaa fir tumse toh kuch ho hi nhi sakta, jahan haath daaloge wahan kharab kroge surrounding, tum pe toh ehsaan kr rhe hain hum tumhe paal ke warna hum naa ho na toh bhukhe mar jaoge,

kyu paida ho gye tum, tumse toh accha behen hi na hoti meri, kisi kaam ki nhi ho tum ghar ka naam kharab kr rkha hai, mahaul bhi kharaab kr rkha h and still many more...."

Arey!! lijiye itne se taane padh ke thak gye kya?? abhi toh or hain.

Sab meri baaton se relate nhi krenge but most of them krenge because woh ye roz sunte hain or ye sab bolne wale are not outsiders infact ye toh humare apne gharwale hote hain jinhe hum parents or siblings bolte hain.

Abhi toh sirf parents and siblings hain friends ki toh baat hi nhi kii.

The main fact is ki aap kuch bhi kr lo you can't stand perfect on their EXPECTATIONS.

I totally agree with the fact ki parents life ka bhot hi important hissa hain and we should always listen them and follow them.

But this doesn't mean that everything they do is right.

If the things they are saying goes against your self - respect....i really suggest to take a stand.

Please DO NOT NORMALISE "TAUNTING"

I don't say ki aap unse badtmeezi kro yaa unke saath koi bhi esa behaviour kro jo unhe hurt kre but atleast try to make them understand What you feel.

Aur agar fir bhi na bane baat toh the best option is to distance yourself from those who can't even understand you instead puts you in a SELF - DOUBT.

Ab aap kahoge parents hain ese kese distance kr le yaa unki parwah na kre.

I am not saying ki aap unse baat band kro yaa distance not always means to stop talking to your loved ones. But jitni zaroorat ho utni toh kr sakte hain na with no expectations no complaints and no demands of making them understand or being understood.

Live with your conditions not theirs. Apni life ka remote apne paas rkhoge tab hi apna pasandida channel laga paoge warna jo woh dikhayenge wohi dekhna padega.

Main nhi kar paai but i don't want ki koi or suffer kre.

Kyuki ye trauma sirf aapko ek darawna sach nhi deta saath mein free fund mein aate hai lots and lots of self - doubts, anxiety, sadness, loneliness.

And trust me I know how it feels like when you wants to be loved but you know no one is there to love you.

So just LOVE YOURSELF itna ki kisi or ki zaroorat hi na pade!!!

Take the remote of your life from others and enjoy your favourite channel.

Chaahe sahi ho yaa galat atleast aapka decision hai and if galat bhi hai toh bhi you are going to pay for your deeds atleast. Kisi or ke kiye ki saza toh nhi bhugtoge because trust me kisi or ki galti ki saza jab aap bhugatate ho na toh that is worse than a failure.

Kyunki aap apne mann ka kro toh bhi galat ho or unke mann ka kro toh bhi expectations poori nhi hoti toh atleast apne mann ka kr ke thodi hi sahi success toh milegi or inn sabse zyada milega SUKOON of doing what you love.

Pyaar ke peeche mat bhaago kuch esa kro ki pyaar tumhare peeche bhaage.

Jab kar loge na toh apne aap dekhoge ki people are loving you.

Parents are always right about there perceptions and experiences but the thing they do wrong is they don't even tries to understand what their child is going through from inside.

They will do everything for you they will also give everything you want but inn sab ke badle they will take your all decision making powers.

Isn't it a bad deal to do??

I think a very bad.

We don't love them for giving us accessories but we love them when they give time love care and most important understanding.

Mera experience kuch khaas nhi tha but i think bhot ese log honge jinhe mera ye blog padh ke shayad sukoon milega kyunki ye baatein i know koi chaah kr ke bhi kisi ko nhi bata paata. Andar hi andar bass unn doubts se ladta hai.

So at last I would say just LOVE YOURSELF don't expect to be loved from others.